Life Lessons My Child Taught Me
Two girls riding their bikes one afternoon.
My children had a Bike-A-Thon event at school last week, and I volunteered to help. One of my children, who is an excellent bike rider btw, wasn’t very keen on participating. This child of mine has some sensory preferences, and sensory needs, and also is always extremely cautious and careful. So no surprises when she decided she was NOT going to ride her bike, in spite of having it all ready and prepped…
I was a little upset that she gave up on this opportunity - and riding her bike is one of her favorite activities!! But, when I asked her later about her decision, I learned some HUGE LIFE LESSONS 🤯
✨ You don’t have to follow the crowd, do what feels right for yourself!
It was hot, humid, and there were about 80 kids, plus staff members, parents, and supporters! Naturally kids were bumping into each other, falling, getting hurt. Even though my child loves to ride her bike, she does not like getting hurt. And that felt more important for her that day. An important reminder for me - pay attention to my needs first, and don’t say YES to things you may not be ready for!
✨ There is so much joy in cheering for others!
My child had a wonderful time cheering for her friends and her classmates as they were riding their bikes. She followed them, waved at them, smiled as they went past her - she was just so happy for them. Another great reminder for me - STOP comparing myself with others around me… Be genuinely happy for my friends and family members and celebrate their successes with them!
✨ Enjoy your own company!
After the event, the school arranged for shaved ice treats for all the children. I saw many of her friends sit with each other and share stories and all the fun from the event. They were enjoying their treats, but also enjoying the socializing. My child was enjoying all that too. But after a while, she broke from her group and sat next to me so she could relish her ice treat and just relax in the shade. She looked so content - she definitely filled her own cup (no pun intended)! And when she was ready, she joined her group again. Another reminder to my introvert self - it’s okay to take some time out for yourself to refill your cup. I have found that I especially need those after social events.
It’s amazing how much our children can teach us… if only we are open to learning from them. As parents we only want the best for our children, and we may push them so they can achieve. But let’s also focus on being their PARTNERS, watching them, listening to them, and loving them no matter what. We know our children, but let’s trust that they know themselves too! Let’s help them be their own ADVOCATES…